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1. Post your picture

Part of the process of developing a mutual attraction involves knowing what the other person looks like. Some people will protest saying it is superficial to think this way. Maybe it is. Still, you will do better with a picture than without one. Emails and instant messages, even phone calls, are great, but there needs to be a physical attraction, or else it isn’t going to work. In some cases people post fake pictures. That’s a no-no!

2. Don’t make unreasonable requests.

After only a couple of emails being exchanged, it is a little too early to ask someone if they would be willing to relocate so that you have a chance to get to know them better. Another example might be asking them to call you, when you know the other person needs this time to sleep because of shift work.

3. Don’t invite them to a webcam chat too early.

There are a lot of people cruising dating sites just to get someone to exchange lewed images and comments with. If they want to invite you to an IM chat and webcam session, it is best if you have exchanged a few emails first.

4. Don’t be afraid to ask about their intentions.

Just because someone’s profile says they are looking for friends, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are looking for intimate friends. It’s funny, but some people will assume this. Communication is the key to any relationship, and you need to establish your expectation and intentions upfront. It could be that they are looking for a friend, because they already have a spouse.

5. Meet in a public place.

Even if you have exchanged multiple emails, phone calls, etc… your first meeting should be in public. Keep it short. See if there is a connection. If it isn’t going to work for you, politely tell them.