I suppose most people know what religion they are, but sometimes a person can feel that they have beliefs that are similar to a different religion then their own. Is your faith buried in your current choice, or is it possible that you might be better suited to a different one?
I ran across this test you can take online that will quiz you about your beliefs, and then based on percentages, will display what percentage of various religions your beliefs lean towards.
The results from my test show that I am Secular Humanism (100%), Unitarian Universalism (90%), Non-theist (79%)… and so on…
There is only about 20 questions so it doesn’t take long to take. But I must warn you there is a lot of flashing advertisements on the page that make taking the question a little distracting.
Take the test and post your basic results here and let me know if you agree with the assessment or not.
Online dating is hot. People are finding out that meeting someone online is not only very doable but can be especially gratifying.
But (there’s always one of those) internet dating can sometimes produce less than positive results. For many people it’s when expectations meet reality.
For instance a guy who thinks he’s found the right girl. He replies on her profile and suddenly they start communicating on a very regular basis.
The chemistry they’ve built up through exchanging messages and talking on the phone blossoms. Now he considers the possibility of having more than an online relationship with the girl. He decides it’s time to set up their first real date.
And then it happens. They meet for first time over lunch and it’s a disaster. The girl appears to be somewhat different than what the guy had expected or recalled. But worse of all, the cheerful chemistry and lively conversation they had built up abruptly vanished. The date came to an end and even though the girl said that she had a nice time and enjoyed herself the problem is still there. The guy does not know what to say.
This is not uncommon in the world of online dating. There are many cases where two people just don’t click when they meet in person.
A lot of people who are involved in online dating usually ask why such things happen. They find it hard to believe that the person they have learned to like (and love) online is entirely different when in person.
So they try to assess themselves what went wrong. Is it their point of view that has changed? Were they deceived by the other person? Or was it just wrong from the very start?
The problem with most people is they fail to keep in mind that when they communicate to their dates online, they are really communicating, not with a person but with a series of texts. This is because any answers can always be fabricated or the other person can always deceive his or her date.
When this happens, personal meetings often end up like the one mentioned above. This is because reality is entirely different from what the computer screen illustrates.
Nevertheless, in real life, you’ve got to know how to exit from the situation without having to hurt the other person’s feelings. Continue Reading »
Part of the process of developing a mutual attraction involves knowing what the other person looks like. Some people will protest saying it is superficial to think this way. Maybe it is. Still, you will do better with a picture than without one. Emails and instant messages, even phone calls, are great, but there needs to be a physical attraction, or else it isn’t going to work. In some cases people post fake pictures. That’s a no-no!
2. Don’t make unreasonable requests.
After only a couple of emails being exchanged, it is a little too early to ask someone if they would be willing to relocate so that you have a chance to get to know them better. Another example might be asking them to call you, when you know the other person needs this time to sleep because of shift work.
3. Don’t invite them to a webcam chat too early.
There are a lot of people cruising dating sites just to get someone to exchange lewed images and comments with. If they want to invite you to an IM chat and webcam session, it is best if you have exchanged a few emails first.
4. Don’t be afraid to ask about their intentions.
Just because someone’s profile says they are looking for friends, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are looking for intimate friends. It’s funny, but some people will assume this. Communication is the key to any relationship, and you need to establish your expectation and intentions upfront. It could be that they are looking for a friend, because they already have a spouse.
5. Meet in a public place.
Even if you have exchanged multiple emails, phone calls, etc… your first meeting should be in public. Keep it short. See if there is a connection. If it isn’t going to work for you, politely tell them.
Imagine you’re a famed chef. Patrons come from near and far to dine on your delectable dishes. Your ingredients are all fresh and organically grown and your spices your own special blend. Each meal you serve up follows a strict process from chopping, sautéing, spicing on to either grilling or baking at just the right temperatures for just the right time to produce the perfect results your patrons rave about.
Interesting when it comes to cooking a gourmet dish we have no problem understanding how essential each step is and that they need to come in the proper sequence. That the baking can’t come before the spicing, that the grilling doesn’t come before the sautéing.
However when it comes to relationships we get the steps all mixed up sometimes and still expect good results! We think we can jump to step 6 when we haven’t completed step 2.
“I’m in love with a guy who won’t admit feelings, we’re having a baby together, what do I do? We still hook up every weekend…”
This young woman got the sequence all wrong. Her mistake was to get pregnant before she had a committed relationship worked out with her guy. They had not discussed any common purpose for their relationship and had simply fallen by default into a pattern of sexual gratification with no plans for becoming parents. Continue Reading »
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If you are considering whether to stay in or leave your present relationship, I feel this book will help you come to a more clear, conscious choice about whether to stay in or leave your relationship.
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At times nature can be cruel, but there is also a raw beauty, and even a certain justice manifested within that cruelty.
The alligator, one of the oldest and ultimate predators, normally considered the “apex predator”, can still fall victim to implemented ‘team work’ strategy, made possible due to the tight knit social structure and “survival of the pack mentality” bred into the canines.
See the remarkable photograph below courtesy of Nature Magazine.Note that the Alpha dog has a muzzle hold on the gator preventing it from breathing, while another dog has a hold on the tail to keep it from thrashing. The third dog attacks the soft under belly of the gator.
If you’ve been considering leaving your relationship but don’t know what you should do. There’s a brand new ebook I would like to recommend called “Should You Stay or Should You Go?” The book is written by relationship coaches Susie and Otto Collins and is filled with hundreds powerful questions and insights that will help you make that difficult relationship decision.
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